People are our mirrors. This perspective can be an incredible eye-opener when growing or even just living and being in all types of relationships – friends, family, loves. This perspective gives you the opportunity to become more and more aware of how the people that surround you are reflections of different aspects of yourself.
And how does this help you? It can open your eyes to how you may be acting in the present, how you want to be and how you don’t want to be, as well as aspects of yourself that you may want to AMP up or let go of in order to reach a happy, fulfilling place.
Sometimes I see things that I love in others that perhaps I hope that I embody in some way. Other times I see attributes in others that bother me and this in particular really made me think. I wondered, “Well if those actions or that way of being bothers me so much then I must do that too, in some way, maybe not the way they do it, but I’m doing it in some way if I am attracting it to myself.” At first this made me feel sort of bad about myself, “I thought, wow, I didn’t realize I may affect people in a way I don’t want to, I feel like a bad person, etc.” This instant self-deprecation can be natural for a lot of us, but that doesn’t make it true. That little voice is your Ego, a part of you that’s main goal is to keep you in a place of fear or lack. And, even though your Ego never speaks the truth, it can help you shift and grow for the better.
We are all constantly growing and learning. There will be times when we will react or act in ways that will make us look back and say “Why did I do that?” or “I should have thought that through first,” but hey, we’re human and so we have these moments that don’t bring out our best selves, to give us an opportunity to notice what we don’t like, notice that we have a choice as to how to be, and notice that we can react or respond differently in the present and future. We always have a choice.
The more I opened up to and accepted the idea that people around me reflected me in some ways, the more I became aware of some of my best teachers! Just remember, don’t judge yourself too harshly if you see things you don’t like within yourself, if you would like to grow out of a habit, way of thinking, or way of reacting. Avoid the “I should know better’s!,” and the “I can’t believe I did that again’s!” That language only hurts you even more.
FORGIVE YOURSELF and forgive those involved and know that we’ve all been there or we’ll all be there at some point. Keep pushing yourself to shift an aspect of yourself that may not reflect your best self. Don’t just throw your hands up in the air and say “Well I’m human so I’m off the hook for everything I say and do!” No. It is important to take responsibility for ourselves, apologize when necessary, stand our ground when necessary, and make changes when necessary. Always do and say things from your heart, as best you can. We are always doing the best we can. Mean what you say and say what you mean. ( And when I say “say” I am not only talking about verbal communication )
Trust yourself because you DO know what’s best for you. Always be kind to yourself and others – treat others the way you would want to be treated, and think before you speak J
Reflecting lots of love back to you!
Love, Lianda
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